Sorry to hear it. The only advice I know is to have a P.I. follow her around and see if she's cheating on you. That plays a big part in the settlement.
Maybe in some places, or at some time, but in my state, today, it has NO influence whatsoever. All either party has to do is check the box that says "irreconcilable differences", and a couple of weeks later, you're in front of the judge, leaving with half the pieces.
In my state, she could have had an affair with the pope, and it wouldn't have made a difference.
