Listen, I'll say it nicely: the time for counselling MIGHT have been a couple-three years ago. She has said she wants out, so it's past the deadline for marriage counselling.
I know you want to make it work, I know your heart is broken, and believe me, I've been there (and so have a couple dozen other 24HCF members). But virtually ALL of us have told you from OUR OWN EXPERIENCE that you need to LAWYER UP NOW!!!!
Not after you see the counselor, not after you have make-up sex, not after she throws some other flim-flam at you. If you let her stall for time here, it's only going to cost you MORE MONEY and MORE HEARTACHE.
Sure, go see the marriage counselor on Monday, but for the love of Mike please talk to a lawyer first, so you can get good advice on what you SHOULD NOT SAY in the counseling session! Anything you say in that session can and will be used against you in a court of law!!!
This could be made into a poster and sold at the mall.
