Nothing to add to the plethora of good, bad and ugly advice here, just a reminiscence of marriage counseling.
The whole point of counseling for my wife was so she could tell someone else what a sorry POS [bleep] I was, how everything was my fault and how she was perfect and blameless in all regards and then have that someone else say, "yes, of course you poor dear, you're absolutely right."
We went through three counselors before she found the one that would do that...
