Since we're back to our previous programming...
Birddog, I've been down that road too. You wil learn a tremendous amount in counseling. Out of an hour long session, 55 minutes of it will be her bringing up crap that happened, or might have happened, or was percieved to have happened 14 years ago. You will learn what a schmuck you've been everyday since. You won't remember any of this, (because normal people get over these things)so you'll be sitting there defenseless, with a stupid look on your face. If you have had any doubt up to this point how well prepared she is for this whole thing, this session should be enlightening. She's likely just as prepared legally. If you get to session two, that will likely cover year 13.
Good luck.
At least by waiting until Monday, you'll have time to schedule a few things.
Rent a backhoe for 9:30am. You'll want to dig a hole big enough for two by then.
Set up an appointment with an attorney before noon. A good one.
But dont you unnerstan, it is his fault because it was those things he did years ago that bounces around in her brain all day long and makes her hate him so its his fault her love for him died, though the things she did to him didnt make him quit loving her because she had good reasons to do all the bad things she did to him. No wonder he still loves her, hes the one who made her do bad things to him, like screwing around wanting a divorce. ITS HIS FAULT.
Yeah,...whetever you do, don't go see a marriage councelor.
Their job is to wrinkle up they forehead while the woman yaps along about what a chitbird you are,.. ask, "He did that?!,..He did that?!,...and to occasionally look over at you while wearing an incredulous expression and say, "What da fug were you thinkin' about?!!"
After about an hour of this, he charges you $100 and sends ya home with an appointment to come back next week for some more of the same.
If he's really good at it,..the wife ends up givin' him some,..and you get to pay him $100 an hour for it.
It's best just to hit yourself in the balls with a hammer every time the wife suggests that you two go to a marriage councelor.
It's pretty much the same thing,...it doesn't cost $100 an hour,..and it's just one less guy that ends up pokin' ya wife.
It's kinda like this:
Wife "Boo-hooooOOOOOooooooo!,...we need to see a marriage councelor!"
Husband "What about I just hit myself in the balls with a hammer instead?"
Wife "Close enough."
