If you go back and read my edit, my situation didn't involve an affair and I have no idea if OP's wife is having one but if she is, there is a reason for it and he'll have to decide if he will forgive her for her pettiness
A mother of young children deciding to end her marriage, is "petty"? No, she's a self-centered psycho, or just a nasty bitch. The only fact that could change that is if the OP had been criminally charged with her abuse. If you don't understand that, you're an idiot.
