When they're done, they're done......
This & you should be too.
Tell her to GFY & then do the best you can to defend yourself against what she will attempt to do.
If you do otherwise, you are a damn fool.
MM
Sound advice.
Oh yeah. It's pretty "easy" to tell someone you love and have kids with to GFY and leave. WTF is wrong with you people?
Everyone is rooting for divorce so you can relish it on 24HCF.
WTF?
If you go back and read my edit, my situation didn't involve an affair and I have no idea if OP's wife is having one but if she is, there is a reason for it and he'll have to decide if he will forgive her for her pettiness