GL88,
Don't be fearful of trying those wheel weights. More important than BHN is filling up the grooves on your rifle and Sir RC's advice on size is good. Powder coating also is a good thing in the cast rifle load world and the paint does add some size with two coats it seems. The Push through Lee sizer is a good choice, but I don't think they are doing "custom" sizes like .460 or .461 in their shop anymore. Sadly. Here's to hoping your mold drops a nice big .460 bullet and you can Paint it up and enjoy your new magnificent 458 WM.